5 things that couples should avoid if they want a long lasting love

There is not a magic formula for long lasting love, but there are things that you might want to avoid if you don't want to put your relationship in jeopardy:

1. Prevent your partner from seeing her/his friends and family. Obviously a relationship is to enrich your life not to put limitations into it.

2. Insist on knowing where your partner is all the time. People want to have a partner not a bodyguard.

3. Become jealous or get mad if he talks to another woman or if she talks to another man. It is inevitable to talk to other people from the opposite sex since they are half of the population. 

4. Suspect that your partner is unfaithful, specially if this is not real. Be careful with the self-fulfilling prophecy. You think so much about one thing that it becomes a reality in your life.

5.  Go over her/ his cell phone without her/his permission. She/ he has the right to her/his intimacy. (source: healthy love app for iPhone, in the App Store)

All of these are controlling behaviors that in the long term might open the door for abuse in the couple. It also discourages your partner to be open and intimate with you. At the bottom line, these behaviors are signs that you don't trust your partner and that you are feeling insecure about your relationship. Look for counselling to find out why you are trying to control your partner. It is never to late for a change that can lead you to long lasting love.

Can You think of others things to avoid?