Jane was a girl when her father decided to leave her mother. He fell in love with his assistant and was unfaithful to his wife. He decided to end his marriage to start a new life with his lover. Jane saw her mother suffering for this breakup for a long time. Jane promised herself that this situation was not going to happen to her.
When Jane became an adult, she established a relationship with a guy that loved her deeply. The guy wanted to marry her but she wasn't ready to commit because she remembered the situation she lived with her parents. Many times her boyfriend proposed to her, but the answer was always the same. The boyfriend gave up the idea of marrying her but this time he wanted to have a child with her. Of course the idea was not accepted by Jane. They lived together for ten years until the day the boyfriend realized that he was going nowhere with Jane and that this wasn't the kind of relationship he wanted to have. So, he left Jane and afterwards started a new relationship, got married and had a girl with her new partner.
For Jane, the separation with her boyfriend was extremely painful. Loosing him made her analyze her life and realize that she hadn't been able to commit because she was stuck in the past, trapped in the memories of relationship of her parents. The cost of not letting go of the past was the loss of her love. To overcome this loss took her several years, but she was in the process of recovering from her childhood trauma.
Being stuck in the past didn't allow Jane to enjoy and to be fully present in her relationship. You cannot be in two places at the same time. You have to choose between being in the past or in the present, or between let your fear determine you life or take the risk of deciding for yourself.
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