Have you find yourself trapped in the vicious circle of complaining about everything? Have you notice that more often than not, most of your talk is full of complaints. Is people starting to avoid you because they perceive your negative vibes? Is your partner tired of your complaints? If you answer is yes to most of these questions, you are a complainer, or at least you are in the way to become one.
When people tag you as complainer, you 'd better watch out because your reputation is at stake. Moreover, this negativity will attract more negativity and your situation might get worse. That is why when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, everything seems to go wrong. Complaining brings more negative things to you and doesn't bring any solution to the situation that is annoying you.
It is very difficult to break this pattern of complaining, but you will find some techniques that will chase away those dark clouds over your head. The simplest and practical one is this: if you find yourself complaining, apply this easy formula:
"Complaint" + "but"+ " positive statement"
An example on how to apply this formula is this : "I hate when the meetings start very early in the morning since I have to wake up earlier (complaint) , BUT I know I can accomplish more tasks during that day (positive statement). Here is another one: "I don't like my hair (complaint), BUT I am grateful to have hair( positive statement). I could have been bald".
Remember that every problem is an opportunity, but first you have to stop complaining in order to adopt this approach. Use the "but" formula and stop complaining now.
Any other techniques that you would like to share?
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