Saving your relationship: no more criticism for your partner!

In my last post, I commented that criticizing your partner is a good predictor of a future breakup/divorce. If you want to protect your relationship and want to prevent it from ending, you must stop criticism.  I know that It is not realistic not to complain about things you do not like about your partner, but here are some tips you might find useful:

1. If you have to complain, focus on the action or situation, not on the person. 

2. Remember all the things you like about your parner, before saying anything.

3. If you are angry, wait until you are calm to express what it is bothering you.

4. Ask yourself: do you want to be right or do you prefer to be happy? Remember that everyone does things in different ways and we must be respectful of these differences as long as they don't hurt anyone.

5. Above all, do not insult, humiliate, demean or belittled him/her because this is an abusive behavior. If you think you are being abusive with your partner, try the Healthy Love App for iPhone: https://itunes.apple.com/sv/app/healthy-love/id841472988?l=en&mt=8, and take the healthy love quiz from the point of view of your partner.

Be kind, after all this is the person you have chosen to be your partner!